Sunday, October 22, 2006

Scruples...

Scruples is an uneasy feeling arising from conscience or principle that tends to hinder action. Also it’s to hesitate as a result of conscience or principle.

Many times in our lives, we have faced circumstances in which we tend to question ourselves and bring up the utmost principle of all: To do the correct thing, even if that will bring undesired consequences into our lives. Whatever we do in our daily activities puts our principles to test and occasionally there may arise serious doubts as to which is the correct path to take.

Have you ever been offered money to provide additional information to a customer, provider, contestant or whosoever shall ask for it? Have you ever been in a position to fear to say “no” to a situation or person because we believe it will risk our position within the organization or in our social life? And this would also include sexual harrasment as well.

But even if you bring this situation to your daily life, it could become a touchy issue to discuss with your children, for example. How would you react if your children take something that has not been paid yet at the Supermarket?, Would you let them eat a candy, chocolate or a yogurt which has not been paid yet? Would you pay for it afterwards? What would you say to him?

On the other hand, would you accept a promotion in your job knowing that probably it has been granted to you because your boss will invite you out for “dinner” after that? Would you accept to become his/her lover in order to keep that very well paid position?

When this is only theory, it’s very easy to choose the right thing to do, but when it comes up in real life, choice may not be so certain.

Now, you tell me: Have you ever faced something which has put your principles to the test? When?...

18 Comments:

Blogger cc-consulting said...

My dear friend, as always I’m pleased and amazed by your writing.
Life if full of obstacles we have to deal with; different paths we have to choose from as well.
At his very moment I am dealing with something I’ve never been through before, it’s something that seduces and scares me at the same time. I do have to make a decision but wouldn’t like to be hurt….
All my principles are being put into test…

Love

Lo

11:24 AM  
Blogger cc-consulting said...

My dear friend, as always I’m pleased and amazed by your writing.
Life if full of obstacles we have to deal with; different paths we have to choose from as well.
At his very moment I am dealing with something I’ve never been through before, it’s something that seduces and scares me at the same time. I do have to make a decision but wouldn’t like to be hurt….
All my principles are being put into test…

Love

Lo

11:24 AM  
Blogger Icy said...

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1:38 PM  
Blogger Icy said...

My dearest friend,

When something or someone puts your principles to test you have only one thing to do: Trust your guts!!

Lots of luck my dear Lo!!!!!!!!!

May the force be with you...

1:39 PM  
Blogger Blood said...

My friend, my english (spanglish in really) is so poor. I'll try to comment you with my little vocabulary.
I understand your post, and I think it's so easy to say the things, but is absolutely different when you must take a decision about the real life.

Bloody greetings

Blood

2:31 PM  
Blogger Icy said...

My dear Doc,

Congrats! your English is quite all right, my friend!!! Thanks a lot to drop your comment in my new house!!

And you are absolutely right!!! One thing is to say something and another quite different is to do it...

Big kiss for you!! Bloody, certainly!

:D

9:04 PM  
Blogger Andy said...

Por supuesto que me ha ocurrido poner en la mira mis principios, y que tan teórico es lo planteado? no te ha ocurrido actualmente?

11:49 PM  
Blogger ahoratodostusolo said...

¿Principles? ¿What's that stuff?

I only follow my instincts...

Rabi

8:15 AM  
Blogger Yo said...

Wow, Icy, a(nother) new Home :D !!!
I love the colors you have chosen for this blog... so delicate, yet so vivid...

And in english... oops... let's try...

I don't like to think in scruples and principles as equals...
Scruples hold you back without the chance of a deeper knowledge of what you are rejecting... on the other hand, Principles allow you to take a step forward, toward any unknown situation, because you have them as a solid shield that (should) protect you from being harmed, or confused...
(?)
Anyway, that's the theory, in real life the thing is quite different...
In my case, I haven't got problems like the ones listed in your post, my troubles are related to decisions like: should I divorce my husband? If so, then when and what for? Do I have the right to form a new family?
Probably, for most people, the answers are easily "Yes, Why not", but not for me...
I'm still trying to find out whether I was wrong before breaking up (when I thought marriage was for ever, and no second chances allowed if it didn't come well) , or I'm wrong now, when I have doubts about it...

I don't want to take a position based on pure convenience, if you know what I mean... ("hey, I want to be single again, son yes, divorce is a good thing" guacala to a thought like that)

I want to take it or not because I'm truly convinced of the goodness of that step in my heart...

I haven't reach a verdict yet :D:D

Big hug!!!

10:37 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Icy, my friend....

I can´t find the subtitles in spanish...

It´s a problem in my PC?

9:53 AM  
Blogger Anónimo Aún said...

Principles means ethics issues. It's easy to say ... hard to live.

Someone said try to do what you can explain your children. If you feel right, is correct. I think it can be a good approach rule, but it can be lazy too. Why? Because is a rule based in habits and habits may be wrong, including illegal or anti-ethics habits.

Anónimo Aún

7:58 PM  
Blogger Over40 said...

Congratulations on your new place in "blog-o-sphere"!

Well, this is a big pill to swallow!

Just let me tell you that our reactions have everything to do with the balance between threat and expectations.

In my case, I myself got faced to an "off track" walk when, after many years attempting to have a sound couple relationship and family life, it happened to me that I ran out of batteries, with everything going downhill.

Out of no particular consideration, I decided to try a different flavor... met a fine woman, regained confidence and stepped out the Exit door. It was hard, though. But the outcome has been splendid.

Other than that, I still consider myself a reliable, conservative and tenacious person.

Time will tell!

3:04 AM  
Blogger mixtu said...

principios...
quem os tem, chama-lhes seus...

e quando faltarem... somos apenas uma simples cosa e não um ser...

beijos europeus

8:19 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Me llamo la atencion la foto de tu perfil..."Mucha a la ventana" de Salvador Dalí , para una obsesión ..perdi la cuenta de las veces que la he dibujado, es un misterio. excelentes gustos los puedom comprender. saludos .

6:36 PM  
Blogger mixtu said...

besos navideños...

de portugal :)

8:26 PM  
Blogger yole said...

I have never had to confront situations that have tested my principles, though it is never late in order that it happens; then the dilemma will come.

4:51 AM  
Blogger Cosas que pasan said...

lamentablemente no hablo ni J de ingles, pero debe ser un lindo post.

salu2

8:23 PM  
Blogger Unmasked (sin caretas) said...

hello icy,

Many times. and I remember my father telling me: you should ask yourself the following questions;

would you publish it in the paper?
would you tell me or your mother what you are going to do?

if the answer is no, it is wrong, dont do it.

not bad ah?

big hug for you

la mal portati petra :)

11:35 AM  

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